Mapping a life of grace, joy and love in turbulent times.
For anyone who has loved deeply while grief carved canyons into your heart, this is your witness. Love is an act of courage, because we know it’s price is inevitable grief. How To Frame A Life names what we are afraid to, what we are not allowed to, honours your courage and explores with you all the ways still left to hope, and love again.
“The bad news, of course, is that this journey of healing and self-discovery will never end. The good news is that it will never end.”
EXCERPT
“Without context we are all monsters.”
Who It’s For
Those who feel the touch of madness *
If you have ever steadfastly loved in ways you cannot explain, this book is for you.
Those who feel the breath of sadness *
If you have held pain and joy, love and loss, grief and hope in the same breath, this book is for you.
Those who find themselves ridiculous *
If you have ever been made to feel wrong for trying to hold all the aching beauty of humanity despite falling from pedestals you didn’t build, while the storms rage around you, this book is for you.
Lyrics * from Sit Down, by James
A Soul Pharmacy.
The aim of this book is to offer solace, gently invite another perspective, validate your journey, hopefully and most importantly, to inspire you to believe in a gentler today and a better tomorrow.
Use it like a library pharmacy. Read it in one sitting, dip in and out at random; use it to find the right medicine for your soul.
“Have you interrogated the narcissism of your claim?”
“The seeds of change are implicit in the very first questions we ask." ~ David Cooperrider
What People Are Saying
“I was captivated by how Lucinda Kang beautifully weaves personal trials and triumphs with tried and true philosophies in How to Frame A Life. A relatable journey on love and loss and finding your way back home. Lucinda’s written words will linger in your heart long after you have finished the book, simply a gift.”
— Nicole Hrkman“It is a Love Story in a broader sense. A perspective on life that instills a hopeful longing for a better world. The Moral momentum has touched my heart on every page, to carry on with life no matter what: As an incorrigible idealist but truly as a mere human under a sun we all share.
The mixture of visual inspiration combined with one lined lyrical dances or simplistic aphorisms creates a levity of optimism between the more gravitational short stories. Just as in life, where we oscillate between different spheres of magnetism, this book is a reminder that life is to be lived fully with its bad and ugly and its good and beautiful.”
— Edgar Kretschmann“A beautiful read! Through a blend of personal journal moments, stories of love and relationships, and reflections on what it means to live a successful and meaningful life, the writer creates something very relatable and informative.
Alongside her personal experiences, she weaves in insightful facts and ideas that add depth and context throughout the book. Each section feels like an insightful conversation, making it easy to see pieces of yourself in the moments she shares.
The interwoven quotes and complementary images act as thoughtful pauses, inviting reflection and making the book feel both grounding and inspiring.”
— Marjon K.
About
Lucinda Kang writes at the intersection of the personal and the philosophical — about love, grief, identity, and the quiet courage required to keep living with intention when life has tested that intention thoroughly.
Her first book, How To Frame A Life, is a deeply considered companion for anyone navigating the harder seasons of the human experience, weaving together her own story with the wisdom of writers, thinkers, and artists whose words have long served as her compass.
She is the founder of The Commons and The Rest & Play, a philosophy and creative community built around emotional reckoning and the possibility of a more graceful way of being.
She has lived across three continents, raised a son she loves profoundly, and written this book for everyone who has ever tried to hold beauty and sorrow in the same hand.
The Rest & Play
How To Frame A Life is a philosophy of perception — the idea that what we see, feel, and become is shaped by the frames we bring to our experience.
The Rest & Play builds on this, taking thinking and words out of the page and into the world. It is where that philosophy becomes practice. Not as therapy. Not as self-help. As play, as community, as the lived experience of choosing a different frame.
"We understand what we choose to notice. We become what we choose to do with it."
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